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‘Enough is enough’: Aima Baig says society is failing to raise men properly after Sana Yousaf’s murder

‘Enough is enough’: Aima Baig says society is failing to raise men properly after Sana Yousaf’s murder

The singer, while grateful for everyone speaking up, questioned how another innocent woman was murdered.
05 Jun, 2025

Aima Baig condemned the harrowing murder of 17-year-old content creator Sana Yousaf, saying society had failed to raise boys into men who understood the sanctity of a woman’s ‘no’.

The teenager, who recently celebrated her birthday, was gunned down in her home by a man the police later identified as a 22-year-old who had been repeatedly rejected by her. Sana was well-known for her social media posts, with nearly 800,000 followers on her TikTok account and almost 500,000 on her Instagram account.

The Islamabad Police said on Tuesday they had arrested the main suspect in the murder case. Addressing a press conference, Islamabad IG Syed Ali Nasir Rizvi said the culprit was arrested from Faisalabad and termed it a case of “repeated rejections”.

“A beast, cold-blooded murderer is now in the law’s grip,” IG Rizvi announced, adding that the man had tried to contact Sana repeatedly and was being “rejected by her again and again”.

In a series of Instagram stories, Baig said she was haunted by Yousaf’s story, calling her a “young, bright, innocent girl whose life was stolen from her in the most brutal, casual way imaginable.”

The singer said she was grateful to see people speaking up and using their platforms to demand justice, however, she couldn’t help but question: “How did we let this happen again?”

She said that society had failed to teach empathy, respect, and emotional accountability, and in doing so, it “enabled yet another tragedy — one that should never have been possible.”

“Sana said no. And for that, she paid with her life. To the one who ended her story, if you think you earned five minutes of fame, know this — what you earned is eternal shame,” Baig wrote.

Addressing the accused, she said he may believe he acted from power but only exposed his weakness, entitlement and the emptiness of his soul. “What you did was not a reflection of masculinity. It was a reflection of failure — yours and ours, for not teaching better.”

The ‘Groove Mera’ singer said this occurrence wasn’t localised to one place or community, rather it was a “global sickness” that targeted women who dared to live fully, dream loudly and exist unapologetically.

“As if joy, ambition, and visibility somehow make her public property. They don’t. No woman — no person — should have to apologise for living their truth.”

Baig said that everyone knew the world would end one day, but the consequences of our choices — good or evil — would always follow people. She asked people to question what they were allowing, enabling, and what they would be held accountable for.

“Sana should be here today. Smiling. Celebrating. Dreaming. And the fact that she isn’t is a tragedy we should never accept as normal. This is not just about justice. It’s about transformation. Because enough is enough.”

In her last Instagram story, Baig wrote, “You rest in peace, Sana. You beautiful little soul.” The singer also added a prayer for the deceased.

Comments

Dr. Salaria, Aamir Ahmad Jun 05, 2025 12:39pm
Indeed it's a gigantic, gruesome, grisly, grim, grave, gross and great tragedy. Inna Lilla Hay Waa Inna Illehey Rajayoon.
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Ahmed Jun 05, 2025 12:39pm
Please tell us how men should be raised There are people who say that you aren't raised correctly. So please enlighten us.
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Tahmad Jun 05, 2025 12:50pm
So sad, our society must end this cruel madness and killing of innocent lives by mentally ill people.
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zhenga Jun 05, 2025 01:07pm
Rest in peace, beautiful little soul of this girl
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Ridic Jun 05, 2025 01:47pm
@Ahmed they shouldn't be raised to become someone like you — someone who appears on every article talking about women and violence against women and spews absolute nonsense, someone who belittles efforts made to educate men on their toxic behaviours
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Ahmed Jun 05, 2025 02:40pm
@ridic So they should be raised like you? Saying things without proof? Who raised you btw? Did he or she not teach you how to disagree with someone. Have a thought of your own? How to prove someone wrong? Nothing I said is factually incorrect. Just answer the question. How should they be raised.
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Shahid Hussain Jun 05, 2025 02:45pm
Men should be raised to respect boundaries, value consent, and never see control or violence as love. The tragic murder of 17-year-old Sana is not just a crime, it's a reflection of a society that failed to raise its boys right. If boys were taught empathy and accountability, girls like Sana would still be alive.
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Mahmood Jun 05, 2025 03:00pm
... And what about those Men who suffer domestic abuse and beatings from their wives - silently, lest they be branded as 'unManly"?? It does happen in many societies. So Men are not always the only aggressors who subjugate and suppress women. Domestic violence meted out against domestic partners, husbands is even found in advanced Western societies. So, please don't jump to labeling "Men not raised properly" Unless the author is an expert on that topic and can enlighten us - without ignoring the flip side of women who fall in the same category.
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M. Saeed Jun 05, 2025 03:09pm
Baig said, "...... it was a “global sickness” that targeted women who dared to live fully, dream loudly and exist unapologetically."" It should be noted that, the proliferation of amusement sites online, while being an international issue of more misuse than anything else, it is equally a reason for almost 90% of such cases of female harassments and terror. The it can only be controlled if the parents and senior family members have access and means to monitor activities of their children in time.
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Nasir Askar Jun 05, 2025 03:33pm
Almost everybody is sad on the brutal murder of Sara Yousaf. Actions of a single individual can't be used to target all. Perhaps Aima Baig can use her enormous wisdom to enlighten other women folk (mothers) on how to raise their male kids properly.
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Guest 2024 Jun 05, 2025 03:41pm
Upbringing us vitally important, but just as important is what influences you. Turn on the TV today, there are countless, trashy, C grade dramas posing as prime time 'entertainment': Enter our 'hero' aka Danish Taimoor/ Feroze Khan and the like. Playing spoilt, rich kids, who suddenly take a like to some middle class girl from a working family. Queue an multitude of rejected advances, father threatened, brother beaten up, or our 'hero' tries to buy his way onto her affections: pays off a fathers loan, gets her a iob. When that's not enough and she rejects his advances, he kidnaps her on the day of her wedding and forcibly marries her! ( I can't believe I'm even writing this!) Rest of drama spent trying to humanise and empathise with a narcissist who the heroine eventually falls 'in love' with. This trash is what adolescents of today watch and act upon. Morality? Pakistan is a cesspit of immoral and corrupt behaviour
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Laila Jun 05, 2025 04:42pm
A society that's inherently misogynistic patriarchal and have double standards for how to raise and girls and boys, will have problems. Pakistanis don't want to understand that moral standards, decency, modesty and religious laws apply to both men and women. There is no concept of honor culture or honor killing in islam. No right to harm females. Many boys are not being raised to understand that they don't own females sisters, daughters, wives etc, they are not his honor, he has no right to beat, oppress, abuse or kill them. Many parents teach the opposite and allow boys to roam free without sense of accountability or responsibility. The result is rampant violence against and abuse of females in Pakistan.
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Ridic Jun 05, 2025 05:26pm
@Nasir Askar - maybe men can learn to take responsibility for their own actions?
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NK Jun 05, 2025 06:51pm
Do you not belong to that society?
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NK Jun 05, 2025 06:58pm
We are in time and in a society where women have become an object to be seen and to be glorified for beauty and attraction and when that will sell crime against women will continue to happen.
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Laila Jun 05, 2025 07:03pm
Amna Baig is right. We only need to take a look around our mohalla, neighborhood, society, news to see that boys are indeed not being raised correctly. Most are not even being raised. They are left to their own devices, with friends, internet, no supervision, with parents and society saying things like "boys will be boys", "we can't keep boys cooped up inside" "boys don't have honor so they are not in danger", "a mans honor is his sister, wife and daughter, and she is responsible for his honor", "a mans virginity, chastity or purity doesnt matter, only that of girls' matter", "men naturally have temper and can't control it", "males have no selfcontrol and females do and should know better", "men are like children easily lead by cunning females", "husbands are majazi khudas", "males don't like females answering back or showing universal human emotions like anger, jealousy, possessiveness", etc. If males were raised right instead of being allowed unlimited and absolute freedom, with zero accountability, no responsibility, taught to have self control (instead of writing off their behavior as "animal instincts"), no restrictions, no curfew, no supervision, no morals or limits/hadd, indoctrinated with honor culture and viewing females as cattle or property to be owned, forced, controlled and even killed off of needed, Pakistan would look very different today. The morality, modesty, chastity, accountability and limits apply to both women and men in islam. In Pakistan it applies to women only. When we are not even willing to admit our issue, then change is impossible. A girl posting lip sync videos on tik tok is the problem her murder and murderer is not. A woman's decapitated and raped body is not the issue, but her relationship with a man even platonic is. A til tok girl murdered in cold blood by her own father, her so-called protector, is not the problem. Her being on tik tok is. A female being beaten to an inch of life is not the issue, but what she did to provoke the man to lose his patience and control is. A woman being raped in a park is not the issue, but her being in a park is. A girl being assaulted on campus is not the issue, but her being in a co-ed education is. Females being harassed in public is not the issue, but her being outside her home is the issue and of course wearing jeans instead of shalwaar kameez and full head cover.
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Ehsan Jun 05, 2025 07:35pm
Parents need to raise their sons and daughters equally rather than putting undue pressure on their boys to act as the responsible defenders of morality and the girls as dependent weaklings
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Kamran Jun 05, 2025 07:52pm
Our societies are trying to follow the Western culture but our population especially old schooled men from rural and urban areas are not educated and not ready for this change and hence killing in the name of honour and rejection, sad reality.
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Mahmood Jun 05, 2025 08:36pm
@Ridic, Simply ridiculous! Unless you know the person you are addressing, personally. how do you know how they were raised? Just because you disagree with someone's comment or opinion, is no reason to sink to the gutter level and become personal and insulting! Live and let live. If you a role-model of how men in this society should be raised, we wouldn't be having this debate. Millions would be following you. Which they are NOT!
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Tariq Islam Jun 05, 2025 11:34pm
It's not failing to raise men only but generally there is zero investment in human development!
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 12:46am
@Nasir Askar This was not an individual or isolated case. This is happening every day. How long will we sweep this unpleasant truth under the rug? Why should Aima Baig teach PARENTS (the mothers didn't make the baby on her own) how to raise their sons? If people don't know how to raise kids, they should use contraception and delay having kids. It is not the responsibility of society to raise your kids. It's your responsibility. All the raising, restriction, limits, honor lectures is only for daughters. Sons have nl responsibility. No honor. Good to know.
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 02:41am
@Mahmood But males really are not raised properly. They are completely free, with no accountability or limits. Unlike females. Your whataboutism is unhelpful when misogyny is rampant in Pakistan which this article is about, and gender violence in Pakistan is disproportionately higher for females. You know very well, in Pakistan usually men don't get honor killed, nor are they held responsible for the family honor. Women are physically not able to over power, beat up or rape males. So yes males are usually the aggressors. I dont know the need to deflect from these facts? But IF you honestly feel males are unsafe, then research, get data and write an article and submit it. I would read it
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 03:03am
Its a sad indictment of our already ignorant society when people pretend to not know, males are not being raised but are allowed absolute freedom, with zero accountability, duties, no responsibility for family honor, no threat of being honor killed, no restrictions, no off or online parental supervision, no curfew, no expectations of morality. Denial and deflections won't change these facts.
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 03:15am
I missed all the news about females going out making public spaces unsafe for males, raping, kidnaping, beating up, grooming males. Thats why families worry so much about reputation, intact izzat and purity of sons/brothers and fear Pakistani gangster girls making Pakistan unsafe for males. Not a day goes by without a girl throwing acid on a boy crush, or a wife beating up her husband. Honor killing is another threat to males.They have to sleep with one eye open because they dont know if their mother, sisters or wife (all 4 of them) might kill them. The risk is extra high 7 days a month. They are not even spared at the annual Mard Azaadi March in November, where poor males are mocked, attacked with stones and shoes and accused of vulgarity, when all they want, is to claim rights over their own bodies, not be sexually harassed, be safe and get their legal and religious rights like 4 wives, hot food, obedience. On top of that they have to hand over all their property, jewelry, jahez to the wives and in-laws or get burnt, tortured, killed or worse....divorced. We all know, how hard it is for a divorced boy to remarry with all the stigma. Hum larkay ke padaish se nahi dartay, bus larkon ke naseeb se dartay hain. Becharey mazloom larkay. Poor boys. Stay safe. Blink twice if you need help. Male lives matter.
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 02:32pm
@Kamran What you have just described is a society without law and order - and islam. If we are an Islamic nation, why has honor killings not been outlawed? Why is the resistance to change, as you say, only result in killings of females? The killings were happening even before West was west or western influence. It's our own Eastern culture.
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Laila Jun 06, 2025 02:38pm
@NK So a society that objectified women also wants to kill women? That doesn't even make sense. Honor killings and oppression of females in our country and region was taking place long before modern age of technology. Women have always been objectified in every country. That doesn't warrant killing them. Our issue is misogyny, patriarchy, corruption and zero accountability for males and criminals.
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M. Saeed Jun 06, 2025 05:08pm
@LAILA said, "What you have just described is a society without law and order - and Islam. If we are an Islamic nation, why has honor killings not been outlawed? " Don't you know the very reason for the Dawn of Islam in Arabia at the time was, when the savage people of Arabia went too far in inhumanity, that they started burring their daughters alive, at birth, to ward-off their fear of them destroying their honor when growing?
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M. Saeed Jun 06, 2025 05:12pm
A news headline today, in Dawn worth consideration and action by our Government in this matter! "From dangerous diet tips to disinformation, cyberbullying to hate speech, the glut of online content harmful to children grows every day. But several European countries have had enough and now want to limit minors’ access to social media."
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